Hello...Hope everyone had a happy new year! Today's blog will be fairly short; more of a blog of me venting. For some reason, lately I been talking about and thinking about the aspect of cheating. Why people do it? What sex partakes in it the most? I've come to the realization that cheating has NOTHING and EVERYTHING to do with the person you are with/cheating on. Everyone has this concept that ALL men cheat, which I honestly believe is BS. Not all of ANYONE cheats, and how can anyone generalize when they will NEVER meet every man or woman.
Something hit me like an epiphany today: Men usually cheat because they are lacking something within themselves, and women usually cheat because they are lacking something within their lover. Now of course it could be the other way around, but right now I'm generally speaking. For example, a man can have the best wife. She can cook for him, clean his house, sex him on the regular, make him feel like a REAL MAN, yet he may not be satisfied internally. He may need to cheat to see if he still got "it", to feel like a man, to create drama when things are going too well, or when he's just bored with his life and need excitement. Men cheat also because its THERE. Women are dirty creatures, we can know a man has a woman and yet still do whatever it takes to try to conquer him. SMH. Its like when he has a woman, its this challenge we feel we have to fulfill to see if we look better or ARE better than the woman he's with. WE ultimately make it easy for men to cheat.
Women usually cheat because they are insecure that the man they are with is going to cheat, has already cheated, or is going to be like the "others". Women can complain to their man all day about what's lacking in the relationship, and the typical male either ignores her or doesn't listen. So unfortunately, she goes out so fullfill whatever is missing within the man she is with now. Women are more sneaky and conniving. We know how to twist a man's thoughts so that even if he thinks we are cheating, we can make it seem as though its his fault if we are.
Outside of that factor, what i find more disheartening is the fact that a woman can accept a man who cheats repeatedly, but a man usually never accepts a woman who cheats. I believe it is because women fall into comfort more than men. We get so caught up in the thought of starting over, and having to get to know a new guy all over again that it causes us to have a huge fear of getting hurt by a new person. Its so much easier to deal with being hurt by the same person than it is to get hurt by a whole new person.
I just dislike what we do to each other in relationships. One guy or girl can be so strong to some of us, that it changes our perception of the whole mankind. We really should stop giving people who have hurt us before so much POWER. If people can change your perception about people who you haven't even met before, then you need to rethink your faith and beliefs. I don't care if a million men hurt me, beat me, do anything to break me...I know that at least ONE will not. If we change how we think and perceive of other people, maybe we wouldnt always get and accept BS. We really should know our worth....
